The Quest for a God-Centered Marriage: A Widower’s Journey
Isaac Megbolugbe
September 13, 2024
Introduction
As a widower approaching a decade of solitude, I’ve faced numerous inquiries from loved ones about my decision to remain alone. While I’ve offered various excuses, the truth lies in my unwavering commitment to finding a partner who shares my core values. My requirements are threefold: a woman who fears God, loves Christ more than me, and shares spiritual oneness with me.
I firmly believe that a successful marriage involves three entities: the husband, the wife, and God. With God as the Head of the marriage and the husband as His deputy, I’ve encountered resistance from women who disagree with this biblical formation. Some have taken offense to my search for a wife, preferring the term “partner” instead. Others have made it clear that their interests lie solely in physical companionship. However, my heart belongs to the one woman who embodies the qualities I seek. Her Godly ministry to her family, leadership in her church, and mentorship to multiple generations of women have captivated me. Yet, I’ve chosen not to pursue her, prioritizing the wellbeing of the Body of Christ over my personal desires. I recognize that uprooting such a dedicated servant of God would be detrimental to the community. My journey has taught me that when we become living witnesses for God, our desires align with His. I’ve learned to trust in His guidance, even when my feelings or desires differ. God’s glory remains my top priority, surpassing personal welfare or desires. I’m content in knowing that everything is in His hands.
In a world where personal fulfillment often takes center stage, I’ve chosen to stand firm in my convictions. My quest for a God-centered marriage may be unconventional, but I’m willing to wait for the right partner, one who shares my passion for serving the Lord and prioritizing His glory above all else.
The Challenge of Finding a Like-Minded Partner
In today’s society, finding a partner who shares my values and convictions has proven to be a daunting task. Many people prioritize personal fulfillment and happiness over spiritual growth and service to others. I’ve encountered women who are more interested in their own ambitions and desires than in building a God-centered marriage.
The Importance of Spiritual Oneness
Spiritual oneness is a crucial aspect of a successful marriage. When both partners share a deep commitment to God and His principles, they can navigate life’s challenges together, united in their faith. I’ve seen marriages crumble due to a lack of spiritual connection, and I’m determined to find a partner with whom I can build a strong spiritual foundation.
The Role of God in Marriage
I firmly believe that God is the Head of the marriage, and the husband is His deputy. This biblical formation is essential to building a marriage that honors God. When we prioritize God’s glory and seek His guidance, we can trust that our marriage will be blessed and fruitful.
Conclusion
My journey as a widower has taught me the importance of patience, trust, and perseverance. I remain committed to finding a partner who shares my values and convictions, and I’m willing to wait for God to bring us together. I encourage others to prioritize God’s glory in their own lives and relationships, trusting that He will guide and bless them. May my story inspire and encourage you to seek a God-centered marriage, built on the principles of faith, trust, and obedience to Him.
Thank you, Dad, for sharing such profound wisdom from your journey. Your words about patience, trust, and perseverance deeply resonate with me. Your commitment to a God-centered life and marriage is truly inspiring. I’ll keep your advice close to heart,
trusting in God’s timing and guidance in life, May He continue to bless and uphold you as you live out these principles.